(Posted on GuysAskGirls.com from a girl between 18 – 24 years old)
Guys: Why are big boobs “hotter”?
It seems that girls who’re slim and busty are hotter than us who are slim and well, small chested. I have wide hips. I’d be a perfect hourglass if I had big boobs, but I don’t have them. I rarely get told I’m hot, and I don’t dress nor do I act like a nun. Nor like a slut. I get told I’m a really nice, fun and smart girl.
Yet girls with big boobs (who are slim) get told they’re hot all the time. You see the same thing happening with actresses. Sofia Vergara, for instance, is always the “hot” one, all guys think she’s hot and desirable and sexy and they drool and whatever. Yet, say, Kate Hudson doesn’t incite the same feelings in guys.
I want to be hot, but it seems I can’t unless I magically grow big boobs (because implants are a turn off apparently).
About penis size: it’s not the same because you don’t see huge penises on TV like you see breasts, and also, only the first 2 or 3 inches of the vagina are sensitive anyway. I always get told that it’s the same as penis size, and it is not! Maybe if you had your d*** was on display all the time it would be the same, but it’s not. So that’s not a valid argument. Plus technique IS more important, and I have never given much importance to size anyway.
About height: most girls are shorter than the majority of guys (there will always be a shorter girl than you)
About hair: bald guys can be hot (see Bruce Willis, Taye Diggs, Donald Faison and many others).
About muscles: you can grow them naturally. You can’t grow boobs.
Update: To the girls who say it doesn’t matter, well just look at what the media portrays as hot, and you’ll notice women tend to have big boobs. Like I said Sofia Vergara, Salma Hayek, Katy Perry, they’re all considered SEX symbols, whereas…
Update: … women like Kate Hudson or Keira Knightley ARE considered beautiful and elegant, but not HOT or sex symbols. Plus just look at Playboy or Maxim, they all have chesty, slim women. And they represent men’s ideals, otherwise they wouldn’t sell.
Guys don’t choose girls based JUST on how they look. Being “hot” will get you noticed but it won’t land you the guy of your dreams.
Stop being so superficial. Stop being like the media.
Reality is that men choose to be with women based on how they make him FEEL. If you’re sexy and smart then you’re in. And being sexy isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you move, how you talk, and how you FEEL.
Choose to feel sexy and everyone around you will automatically feel it too. Notice how quiet girls suddenly get more attention when they’ve had a few drinks? It’s because they’re suddenly more social and they FEEL more confident.
It’s this inner FEELING you have about yourself that will dictate how others will FEEL when around you. Choose to feel sexy and the boys will too.
I speak from many years of dating many women. The “hot and sexy” ones are the women with the most inner confidence and self assurance. The pretty ones with big t*ts get old real fast when they’re insecure and needy.
But being hot doesn’t mean I won’t get the guy of my dreams either. And if I get the guy of my dreams, then I want him to have the BEST, which means, the whole package: fun, confident, good in bed, smart, sweet and HOOOOOOOOOOT. That’s the thing. It’s part of the package. I already had a guy settle for my body, and it SUCKED!!!!
What do you mean you “had a guy settle for your body”?
And “HOT” is a judgment of attraction, and our human attraction for someone else is based more on who that person is BEING then how they look or what they say. Ask any woman who falls in love with any man.. she’ll call him HOT no matter how he looks.
P.S. The man of your dreams isn’t as superficial as you’re making him sound.. he’ the guy who doesn’t care about your looks, he cares about YOU.
My ex, he complained that my boobs were small in a couple occasions, when I asked him if he preferred big boobs he said yes, etc. Which means I wasn’t his ideal type physically, and that sucks.
Sure the perfect guy might not be superficial, but he’ll be a guy, ridden with testosterone. He’d be WAY happier to have a HOT girlfriend who was ideal physically, than just an average Plain Jane. And my ex told me all guys prefer big boobs over small.
You can either live your life trying to be what other guys want you to be, or you can live your life being awesome as you are.
Besides… girls prefer guys with six-packs and who star in hollywood blockbusters, but who gives a sh*t about what they “prefer.” What really matters is what women actually choose,which is why I do so well.
I hope you realize that when a guy is dating YOU that means he CHOSE you over some other big boobed girl. Which means you’ve got something men like! 😀
But if men want a six pack, they can simply go to the gym! Plus women aren’t as shallow as guys. We’re not as ‘visual’ or whatever.
And sometimes guys settle, like my ex did. so I don’t think just because a guy dates you it means he’s that into you. He can just be waiting until something better comes along.
That’s a horrible way to see yourself. Just because a guy says he prefers big boobs doesn’t mean he thinks you’re less then he deserves.
Think about how sh*tty it’d be for a guy to be super happy dating you only to discover that you think he’s settling, and that you think so poorly of yourself.
Thinking like that is going to keep you too guarded for any real man to find and love the real you.
The guy above you said big breasts are seen as trophies, That means smaller breasts aren’t worthy of being considered trophies or being bragged about.
With that in mind, it’s hard to think a guy is not settling for small breasts if they’re not worthy of being considered as good as big ones.
Someone Else’s Response:
“so I don’t think just because a guy dates you it means he’s that into you. He can just be waiting until something better comes along” this does happen, by the way most guys prefer big boobs but not all do. I have a friend who usually doesn’t like more than a B or C.
I’d prefer to be able to kill assholes driving around with loud bass in their trucks, and be sleeping on a bed made of horny naked virgins, but this doesn’t mean I’m going to turn down the love of my life simply because her boobs aren’t as big as I’d hoped.
If your highest ambition is to become a “trophy wife” then you’re doomed for disappointment no matter how hot you are.
The reality of your situation is likely that you simply want to be loved and cherished exactly how you are….
I’m not you, but I can guarantee that you’ll sleep better when you base your VALUE as a woman/girlfriend/lover on how YOU see yourself, not how random men see you.
A real woman’s value comes from her self esteem and what she brings to a relationship… not her body/looks/etc.
What’s REALLY more important… what some random guys want ( who you don’t even know ) OR what YOU want?!
Don’t seek approval for being yourself.
Give approval to yourself and everyone else can f*** off. 😉