Hows a guy supposed to talk to girls? How is he supposed to communicate with them? Because talking to girls is harder than it seems.
Is talking to your mom or your sisters hard? Probably not.
So perhaps it’s not the girls… perhaps it’s just you?
If you’re nervous it’s your body telling you that you’re not prepared for something.
So prepare. Practice. And have patience.
I found that the number one reason I was terrible talking to women was because I was focused on getting something from her… approval.
Guys who are awesome with women don’t care about getting approval. All they care about is if she’s cool and fun. Which automatically makes her wonder why he’s not acting weird or nervous like all the other guys, which makes her relax and feel comfortable talking to him, which then makes her think that maybe he’s kinda awesome…
The fastest way of learning how to “talk to girls” is simply learning how to be socially calibrated. This means talking to strangers as often as possible. “Hey, do you have the time?”
“Hey, where did you buy those shoes, they’re really nice.”
“Hey, how is that frozen pizza? I’ve been dying to try it.”
Learn how to talk to anyone, man, woman, or child, and you’ll slowly learn that talking to strange people is really fun, easy, and makes THEM nervous instead of YOU.
Then practice on super hot girls, without the intent of dating them, seducing them, or making them like you. This will remove your neediness when interacting with them. If you don’t care if you ever see them again you’ll act more natural, calm, and cool.
Do this, every day, for the rest of your life.
Then one day you’ll be in line at the grocery store and you’ll ask the hot chick behind you what she thinks of all that healthy crap she’s buying, which will lead into a discussion about where vegitarians eat (it’s not mcdonalds) which might lead into you saying…
“You know what? I’ll like your vibe. Let’s meet at the crappy vegetarian deli you’ve been talking about and if the food sucks then you’re buying! If I’m wrong then it’s on me! I have to run, give me your number and I’ll call you to book a time!”
It’s all about practice, no man is born good at talking with women. So make yourself good by putting in the hours of practice!
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Robert Belland is an Audio Visual Nerd, Entrepreneur, and the Author of multiple books, blogs, and self-help courses.