Today’s question is one I answered on GuysAskGirls.com and you can see all the other amazing comments here.
Guys: how do you feel about the way women view your gender?
It’s no secret that females tend to view the male gender less favorably than vice versa. While plenty of women don’t feel this way, it’s still not enough to change the way the more negative view has impacted society’s thinking. Some people feel that females are justified in harboring hostility or dislike towards males/maleness. But what do you think?
Misandry (hatred of men) use to really burn me up. That was until my Mom laughed at me and said, “Oh Robert, don’t be so silly. Of course TV shows make fun of men like that. It’s because you’re men and you can take it.”
Somewhere in her comment I realized two things…
1) It’s a huge waste of energy trying to be upset about what others think or do. For some reason I was hyper sensitive in a way that was making me take such “misandry” personally. Which is silly. The world is too big and too busy to be trying to hurt me personally.
If there are some women who lash out towards men it’s because these same women are injured people trying to injure others in order to feel better about themselves, or because they are blindly trying to defend themselves.
It’s the positive happy people that learn to avoid and ignore such energy draining arguments. And I don’t mean you specifically ( the guy asking this question ) I mean “men” and “women” in general.
2) There’s power and pride to be gained when challenged with a negative comment or vibe or attack.
Because the obstacle IS the way.
Being a “man” or a “woman” with self esteem and confidence actually COMES from a life filled challenges and battles. So even if some “females tend to view the male gender less favourably” it’s more of an opportunity for growth than a reason to sulk or grumble or battle.
Know what I mean?
“One of the main problems with “feminism” is that it exploits the legitimate claims of equal rights as a cloak to usher in its divisive, hateful and neurotic interests. Interests that are plainly anti-male and not at all about equal rights.”
Those who are racist or sexist or ignorant are really just growth opportunities. An opportunity to test one’s own inner confidence and a chance to share a positive insight to someone who doesn’t know any better.
It’s healthy to question everything, especially within our own deepest belief systems.
I encourage you to leave a comment below if you have something to add?
My issue with feminists is purely the ones that are clearly anti-male so much so that MRA or Male Rights Advocate becomes an insult.
— Joe Rogan (@joerogan) April 9, 2013