QUESTION: How do I let go of my grudges?

QUESTION:

I’ve held on to grudges for many years now, and finally met the people I’ve had grudges on. They’re actually cool now, but I just couldn’t let go of the anger and hatred for them.

All of the rumors they’ve spread, all of the lies, and things they’ve stolen, all of the insults and mockery. Their faces alone just tips me off… But I try to be cool.

Question: Why is she being so mean to me?

QUESTION:

Why is she being so mean to me? I honestly am being the nicest guy ever!

So I met this girl at work, she was pretty nice to me, she laughed with me, we would have lunch together and I would see her looking at me as well. She would smile at me and wave from far away. Everything was going perfectly. I honestly really thought she liked me.

Question: How do I get better at sex, without actually having it?

Question: How do I get better at sex, without actually having it?

I am waiting to have sex with someone that I care about but when I am in a position to have sex with said girl, I don’t want to suck at it. What is difficult about sex? I mean, is it the simple cardiovascular endurance needed? Can you actually do anything to train yourself to last longer?
Any advice on how I could improve would be helpful. Thanks, lol.

~ Anonymous Dude (Under 18)

Is Your Vibe Attractive Or Repulsive To Women?

QUESTION:

I’m so tired of being a failure with dating. I want an attractive vibe, but instead I feel like I’m repulsive. I just want to skip the struggle, failure, and heartache and go to the end. I have had enough shitty relationships to last multiple lifetimes.

There’s so many attractive women, I don’t know what I need to do to keep the attention of one.

What’s worse is I realize I can’t use sex to keep their attention, which is what I did before. When does dating become easy? When do women stop saying “you’re going to make some girl happy one day”, and start wanting to become that girl for me?

When will women stop flaking out on a text message I send and actually say what’s wrong with me (I can’t fix it unless I know what’s wrong).

When will being a good guy matter? And what is an attractive vibe?

I understand not every girl is going to like me, but it’d be nice to find some that do.
~ Adam

Halloween Costumes And Meeting Women

(Today’s Guest Guru Post is by David Wygant, a legendary Dating Coach with his own fantastic website www.DavidWygant.com. Go check it out!)

Halloween Costumes And Meeting Women

A lot of you are going to be going to Halloween parties in the next few days. So what does a woman’s Halloween costume say about her?
First off, what somebody wears for Halloween is often what they really want to experience and be. Yeah, that’s right…

Everybody Wants to Get Naked

(Today’s Guest Guru Post is by David Wygant, a legendary Dating Coach with his own fantastic website www.DavidWygant.com. Go check it out!)

Everybody Wants to Get Naked

Did I get your attention? Because it’s the truth.

Everybody wants to get naked. We all want that skin-to-skin contact.

When a child is first brought into this world, a nurse or a mid-wife will take the child and put the child on its mother’s breast or its mother’s chest. And the child will have its first skin-to-skin contact.

The Art Of The No-Fail Opener!

(Today’s Guest Guru Post is by David Wygant, a legendary Dating Coach with his own fantastic website www.DavidWygant.com. Go check it out!)

Making Conversation

Today I want to share with you a simple exercise to help you easily come up with conversation openers. I’d say probably 7 times out of 10, when guys first get in contact with me for dating advice, it’s because they need help talking to women. Either they’re nervous around women or they have no idea how to start conversation with a woman.

Question: Guys, how do you feel about the way women view your gender?

Today’s question is one I answered on GuysAskGirls.com and you can see all the other amazing comments here.

QUESTION:

Guys: how do you feel about the way women view your gender?
It’s no secret that females tend to view the male gender less favorably than vice versa. While plenty of women don’t feel this way, it’s still not enough to change the way the more negative view has impacted society’s thinking. Some people feel that females are justified in harboring hostility or dislike towards males/maleness. But what do you think?

Question: Should I Believe What My Boyfriend Said After Sex?

QUESTION:

My boyfriend said, “you’re the best girlfriend I ever had.” I didn’t really know what to say or rather to believe it or not because it was after sex and I thought he’s just saying things. He also told me he loved me for the first time (before I said it) after sex.

Question: Why Do Girls Sometimes Play With Themselves During Anal Sex?

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Here is a recent question I helped answer on GirlsAskGuys.com, tell me what you think of my answer below in the comments:

 

DirtyDawg:

Why do girls feel the need to play with them selves during anal sex?

I don’t know if I speak for all guys or not but this bugs me because I look at it as a big sign of disrespect. When I’m fucking a girl and she reaches down to play with herself that’s like saying you don’t know how fuck and I can do a better job by myself. If it’s a pleasure thing I think I would prefer her to ask me to do it then to have her do it her self.

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Robby:

It’s your insecurities that are making you think that it’s your job to take care of every single sexual need your girlfriend has, and it’s kinda ridiculous to take it personally when a girl touches herself. Any extra pleasure that she can derive during sex, whether from herself, or her fingers, or your fingers, or a gag in her mouth… what ever… is a good thing. 😀

Worrying about whether you’re being disrespected is just an immature ego response. Develop a little empathy and modesty and you’ll realize that not everything in this world is about you.

Uggg.

Added Note To Myself: I must have been in a grumpy mood when I first wrote this… haha!

 

DirtyDawg:

I never said it was all about me and maybe you’re right It might just be an ego thing. But I like giving girls pleasure in any one way shape or form but I look at it as I’m not the one doing it, she is, and then it turns me off.

 

Robby:

Think of it like this… you’re sharing sexy times together. It’s not about taking over someone’s experience, it’s about sharing. That’s how people have web cam sex… they share the experience without trying to own the experience, know what I mean? Trust me, when a girl is touching herself and she’s thinking of you, that’s a total win! 😀

 

DirtyDawg:

Maybe I was just brought up different cause I was always told that it’s a guys job is to make a women feel happy as possible no matter what and that’s what I’m trying to do.

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Robby:

I totally get what you’re saying, and I felt that same way for years when I was younger. But now that I’m older and I’ve had long talks with women about this I’ve come to realize that we can’t EVER make ourselves RESPONSIBLE for how our partner FEELS. This just means that it’s your job to maintain your own feelings, and how you treat your woman.

And it’s HER responsibility for how she FEELS and how she treats you. Being open and honest, etc.

But if you waste energy trying to be responsible for her feelings you’re ALWAYS going to lose, AND she’ll resent you for it the entire time.

 

DirtyDawg:

Yea you might be right.

 

Added Thoughts?

After reading my short response to his question do you think I missed something? Please add it to my comments below!

Also, here’s one more photo, just because you’ve been kind enough to read this far.

~ Robby

 

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